Posted on: October 5, 2016
Why is it that so many people can agree on one thing: kids can be extremely frustrating. It is often something that has baffled the minds of parents throughout generations of existence – how can I correct my child’s negative behaviour?
First of all, let’s clarify what counts as “negative behaviour”. Negative behaviour in children is an action that displays undesirable intentions:
Evidently failing to correct such actions at an early stage in life implies that these bad habits and traits will be carried on to adulthood – something nobody wants!
So what can you do to help? Here is a simple one-week plan for you to follow as a parent, so you can determine which method is most effective for you. Remember, educating and bringing up your child is a learning process for everyone involved!
Day 1: Don’t React
According to Dr. Ed Christophersen, clinical child psychologist at Children’s Mercy Hospitals and Clinics, “the mistake most parents make is responding to the misbehaviour, since negative attention is always better than none at all.”
The theory is, if your child starts to throw a tantrum because they want something their way – let them! Ignore them, and eventually they will give up.
Day 2: Stay Positive
Never expect your kids to be bad and misbehave! Don’t give them such a title – encourage them and let them know that they have an image to live up to. By being positive, you project positive energy!
Day 3: Walk the Walk
Never nag, instead, implore and encourage your kids! For example, if you need them to be ready in 5/10 minutes, simply remind them nicely and chances are they will most definitely be on time!
Day 4: Validate Before Disciplining
Kids usually act out for a reason. That’s why you should point out the feelings that caused your child to misbehave, and react with a fair consequence. This helps them feel accepted and understood, even as they are being disciplined.
Day 5: Be Consistent
When it comes to the upbringing of children, there is no room for your own outbursts. You need to be consistent with your approach, otherwise lessons won’t be grasped – remember a child’s brain is like a sponge, ready to soak up anything.
Day 6: But Sometimes Change the Rules
Don’t be afraid to alter bad habits – recognise something they do which is perhaps unacceptable (such as playing with an iPad/iPhone too much) and correct this. A natural argument will ensue, but let them know you won’t give up and you will always come out on top.
Day 7: Chill Out
Relax! Go to the park, watch a movie, and enjoy each other’s company. Everyone needs a rest, even mum and dad!
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